I have a young son, and during his rather intense tantrums I find myself questioning my belief before having a child; that nurture is stronger than nature. My wife admits our son takes after her with the temper, so I can only hope my nurturing will bring about a healthy balance for him.
My other son takes very much after me. When he was young it was often a struggle. He yelled he stomped feet, he cursed at me, he caused scenes. But knowing he was like me, I gavev some thought to how I wish I'd been treated. I sat down with him, acknowledged his feelings, and brought him in on the solution. This is the best advice I have to offer. I mean for anything. I couldn't believe it worked. His whole demeanor changed. **It was a long time ago, and I know the really rough parts have softened, but I do remember that fundamental shift.
Gives me hope my son will be fine. They say a temper might help them in life later on, being assertive and all. But yeah, needs to learn to embrace the softer side as well. And a plus if he decides to be a storyteller like dad, and channel that multifaceted energy into writing:]
The way your son combines his intellectual curiosity with a deep sense of morality is inspiring. It's clear that your guidance has played a significant role in shaping his character. And even though you may identify him as a nihilist, in our part of the world he is just a free thinker. His commitment to doing what feels right and not causing harm to others shows much about him as a person. It's heartwarming to read this. Thanks for sharing this beautiful reflection on your son's journey.
Myt son hasn't gone quite that far. He is an atheist who has flirted with Kant. But he is responsible, generous, and thoughtful. That makes me happy. Perhaps some time he will return to the faith.
Great job, mama bear.
I have a young son, and during his rather intense tantrums I find myself questioning my belief before having a child; that nurture is stronger than nature. My wife admits our son takes after her with the temper, so I can only hope my nurturing will bring about a healthy balance for him.
Thank you!
My other son takes very much after me. When he was young it was often a struggle. He yelled he stomped feet, he cursed at me, he caused scenes. But knowing he was like me, I gavev some thought to how I wish I'd been treated. I sat down with him, acknowledged his feelings, and brought him in on the solution. This is the best advice I have to offer. I mean for anything. I couldn't believe it worked. His whole demeanor changed. **It was a long time ago, and I know the really rough parts have softened, but I do remember that fundamental shift.
Gives me hope my son will be fine. They say a temper might help them in life later on, being assertive and all. But yeah, needs to learn to embrace the softer side as well. And a plus if he decides to be a storyteller like dad, and channel that multifaceted energy into writing:]
I love our J!
A very heartwarming read. Children's words sometimes are more philosophical and true than those of adults. :)
I agree!!
The way your son combines his intellectual curiosity with a deep sense of morality is inspiring. It's clear that your guidance has played a significant role in shaping his character. And even though you may identify him as a nihilist, in our part of the world he is just a free thinker. His commitment to doing what feels right and not causing harm to others shows much about him as a person. It's heartwarming to read this. Thanks for sharing this beautiful reflection on your son's journey.
Such a thoughtful critique! Thank you. It is so wonderful to stumble into the community you've created. Thank you again.
Myt son hasn't gone quite that far. He is an atheist who has flirted with Kant. But he is responsible, generous, and thoughtful. That makes me happy. Perhaps some time he will return to the faith.