I assume you know, that caving means giving up everything and compromise means finding a way for both parties to achieve some of their goals. What's the secret? Standing your ground. Planting your feet and not going away until they give you something that you have asked, for even if only a part. It is scary, and depends on having a firm opinion about the importance of your claim. What movie we go to? Nah. What school the kids attend? Yeah!
I think we grew up in similar households. Plenty of advice (criticism) and little praise. But my father was an army officer, not a playwright. We moved every 2 or 3 years.
We played the "What do you want to do?" "Whatever you want" game until someone exploded in exasperation. I had to give in for peace also. Until I went away to school.
Many other things in common--driving in New York--and Boston!
But I turned into a strong-willed opinionated woman who doesn't shut up even when she should. Now I have to relearn some holding of the tongue.
Thanks so much, Ann! We strong-willed, opinionated women are the kind worth knowing. My next challenge is figuring out the difference between caving and compromise. Balance was never my strong suit.
I assume you know, that caving means giving up everything and compromise means finding a way for both parties to achieve some of their goals. What's the secret? Standing your ground. Planting your feet and not going away until they give you something that you have asked, for even if only a part. It is scary, and depends on having a firm opinion about the importance of your claim. What movie we go to? Nah. What school the kids attend? Yeah!
Exactly!
Gathering eyeballs is definitely a challenge.
I think we grew up in similar households. Plenty of advice (criticism) and little praise. But my father was an army officer, not a playwright. We moved every 2 or 3 years.
We played the "What do you want to do?" "Whatever you want" game until someone exploded in exasperation. I had to give in for peace also. Until I went away to school.
Many other things in common--driving in New York--and Boston!
But I turned into a strong-willed opinionated woman who doesn't shut up even when she should. Now I have to relearn some holding of the tongue.
Love your writing!
Thanks so much, Ann! We strong-willed, opinionated women are the kind worth knowing. My next challenge is figuring out the difference between caving and compromise. Balance was never my strong suit.
I like you, because you are alive, and writing, beautifully.
Why thank you.
Congratulations on such a wonderful milestone in your Substack journey! I've been enjoying your work and words and look forward to more.
Thank you sooo much. 🌞
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